Hmm. I was going to suggest something other than sexting, and it would be necessity involve you making the first move but in a way that you could dismiss as less emotionally significant if they did not respond in a way you liked.
Actually, this will probably be easier if I am not coy about it.
I was going to suggest that you buy vibrating underwear, send them the remote in a way that does not put you face to face with them and then observe both the underwear, to see if they try to use it, and any messages they send you in response.
If you don't care for their response, you then disclose that you did this to test their reaction. If you do, you can proceed allowing them to believe that this was you making the first move.
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Actually, this will probably be easier if I am not coy about it.
I was going to suggest that you buy vibrating underwear, send them the remote in a way that does not put you face to face with them and then observe both the underwear, to see if they try to use it, and any messages they send you in response.
If you don't care for their response, you then disclose that you did this to test their reaction. If you do, you can proceed allowing them to believe that this was you making the first move.